Oktavia & Ruben's enchanting wedding, complete with dream-catchers, ribbons and an outdoor ceremony, is guaranteed to capture your heart.
Oktavia & Ruben tied the knot in a wonderful woodland setting, which was decorated with boho-inspired dream-catchers and delicate ribbons streaming from the trees. This DIY-savvy bride even designed and made the bridesmaid dresses! Have a nosey at the beautiful images and video captured by Grace and Mitch of Grace Elizabeth Photo & Film.
WHERE DID YOU GET MARRIED AND WHAT WAS IT ABOUT THE VENUE THAT SEALED THE DEAL?
“Our ceremony was held in a forest on the Thoresby Hall Estate. Growing up in Germany I would spend a lot of time in the woods, we both love forests and knew we wanted a woodland ceremony. We wanted our ceremony setting to be outside, unusual and romantic. We looked around a lot of options, Thoresby Hall was available and happy to help us bring our idea to life. Teresa the wedding coordinator at Thoresby was so helpful in creating our vision and helping us in providing the hay bails, which completed the look.
Our reception venue was held at the Tudor Barn at Warsop, I found this venue when looking at another wedding on our photographer’s website and loved it, our photographer Grace put us in touch with the bride from this other wedding and she was really helpful in giving us more info about the barn. We loved the rustic, countryside feel of the barn, which matched perfectly with our style and theme for the day.”
TALK US THROUGH THE STYLE OF YOUR WEDDING DAY
“The style of our wedding was overall a relaxed, non traditional (we wanted desperately to avoid the elegant / traditional wedding look), down to earth, village-wedding-feel and folk like party.
The ceremony theme was very bohemian with dream-catchers and hay bales for décor to really reflect our love of nature and the outdoors. The barn reception then had a more rustic, country feel with tables lined with wild flowers and a touch of an industrial style, with the bulb lights hanging over our top table.
It was important to us to have a photographer who’s style matched ours. We had seen Grace & Mitch from ‘Grace Elizabeth Photography’ photograph friends of ours weddings and we knew right from the start that we wanted them to photograph and film our wedding day and were so thrilled when they were able to! We loved their relaxed, natural and boho style. They really supported and understood us and our style and were amazing on the day and we have since become really good friends.”
WHAT DID YOU ALL WEAR ON THE BIG DAY?
“I wore a dress by Katya Katya Shehurina and a bespoke flower crown. I wanted a dress that would look like it belonged in the Polish countryside, to have a Slavic/Eastern European look, as my parents are originally from Poland and I love this style. As I am also a designer it was so important to me that I have a more unusual and creative wedding dress design. Having a dress by Katya Katya Shehurina was for me, a dream come true! I absolutely adore her work and have done for years. Going to London to visit her store and trying on and choosing a dress from her collection was probably one of my favourite parts of the whole wedding planning process. As she is Eastern European too, her stunning and unique dresses really matched my desired look.
The bridesmaids dresses I made myself, I wanted a relaxed look and a design that really suited everyone one of the girls. The Groomsmen wore braces, bowties and flat caps as accessories to match our countryside/relaxed/rustic theme, using the colour grey to match with the bridesmaids’ dresses.
Ruben wanted to go for a brown tweed rustic suit, to find this we looked online for a long time, finally finding the perfect one on ASOS, we then waited for it to go on sale and snapped it up just as the price dropped! The bow tie he wore I had found in a charity shop a few years ago and I had given to him as a gift, so it had a sentimental meaning to us both.”
WHAT DID YOU ALL EAT?
“For us food was not a big fuss, it was kindly made for us by my friend and colleague from the café I work at and we just had a classic Sunday roast and in the evening we had cheese platters. Our wedding cake was homemade by one of my bridesmaids.
A big thing for us was coffee! We are big coffee lovers, in fact Ruben proposed to me in the best coffee/barista shop in Britain – so incorporating this was really important to us. When we found The Split Screen Coffee Co. we knew they would be perfect! Jen was an absolute dream, her coffee was so yummy and she also made us amazing muffins, cupcakes and macaroons! Her and her husband were so supportive and helpful to us, communications with them were great and they were so kind to us, even letting us use their own private car as our wedding car (the VW campervan), which her husband drove us in on the day!”
WHAT DO YOU FEEL MADE YOUR WEDDING STAND OUT?
“The fact that our wedding was all DIY, we did all the organising and sourcing (except for the tables and chairs which we hired). Our friends and we did everything; it was a real team effort. There was so much thought and love put into it everything, which made the whole thing so personal and unique to us. Our flowers were completely home grown by our florist Becky which made it really special, we love supporting small local businesses and a lot of thought and effort was put in to our beautiful flowers.
Our bridal party organised some games during the evening one of these was a German wedding tradition (as we are both German), the Veil Dance – this is a popular game for a wedding evening. Every woman or man who wants to dance with the groom or bride, has to pay for it and then dances with them under the veil – our bridal party asked people to put money to contribute towards our honeymoon – which was a lovely thoughtful sentiment.
For future brides and grooms, our advice would be to try to time your wedding well, do it at a time when you don’t have lots of other big things going on in life, I ended up having to try balancing it with organising and moving house and doing a degree, all at one time. It is easy to want everything done for starting your new life together by the wedding day, but try to be wise and leave things that don’t really need doing beforehand, until after the wedding day.
Also don’t over think the little things, sometimes it really doesn’t matter that much in the end. I am a perfectionist, but at times I made myself take a step back and asked myself does it really matter if this bit isn’t 100% perfect? Relax and enjoy the process, don’t put lots of pressure on the small things.”