Romance at Aswarby Rectory

"Our wedding day was simply perfect. I know that must sound like a cliché, but we cannot think of any other way to describe it that does the day justice!

When we started planning our day, we thought hard about the type of wedding we wanted and how we wanted our guests to feel. The most important thing for us was that our guests enjoyed themselves! We wanted it to feel like a family gathering and a real celebration, and to keep things relaxed and informal.

We danced the night away with our family and friends, in fact I don’t think I stopped dancing all night! We ended our evening with just a few family members and close friends, sat outside under the stars sipping fizz and eating wedding cake, wrapped up in blankets, and it was simply perfect.

We planned our wedding in just under 10 weeks, due to receiving some sad news about my (Bride) mum’s health. When we got engaged on 17th April 2019, our plan was to get married in September 2020, but unfortunately when we knew my mum wouldn’t make it to then there was no question but to bring the wedding forward. Unfortunately however, my mum didn’t make the wedding, and sadly passed away 3 weeks before. Whilst it was extremely sad, and not having her by my side on the day was one of the hardest things I’ve done, I took comfort in the fact that she’d been to every venue appointment, met with my caterers, florists and helped my pick out my dress.

As you can imagine this did have some bearing on the wedding day, but we were keen to ensure that the day remained a celebration; a celebration of our love for each other, a celebration for the love we had for all our friends and family and to celebrate the amazing woman who was the Mother of the Bride.

From the moment we woke up on the day to the moment we retired to our honeymoon suite we didn’t stop smiling, our day was filled with many emotions, but the overwhelming one was happiness. Looking at the photos and our video, our day was filled with love, laughter and silly dancing! And that was perfect for us."


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Aswarby Rectory in Aswarby
Aswarby, Sleaford
Francis Day Bridal in Southwell
Number 27 Floral Design
Bakehouse 94
Charlotte Jopling Photography


“We had our wedding at Aswarby Rectory, which is simply a stunning venue. When I first saw Aswarby online, I knew it was the venue. The simple yet stunning style, the grounds and the rustic feel was exactly what I was looking for, and when we went for our first viewing appointment, I remember walking in the main entrance and just falling in love with it.

I then looked at my partner, and he had already taken about 100 photos, as which point I knew we were on the same page!
I think it was the staircase that sealed the deal for me, I could imagine myself walking down those stairs on the my wedding day, and it gave me goose bumps.

You can’t help but feel at home at Aswarby, Donna and Richard are so helpful and welcoming, that by the time it got to the wedding day, I wanted them there as guests. The grounds and the rooms are beautiful, every little detail has been catered for, from warm blankets for your guests in the evening, to little touches of matching their bar flowers to the flowers in the bouquets.

We just felt at home at Aswarby Rectory, and that was the tone we wanted for our wedding day, a relax gathering of family and friends, and the venue fit that perfectly.”


“We wanted our wedding to be informal, so our guests felt relaxed and comfortable. Taking the lead from our venue, we decided to keep the styling rustic and minimal. The venue itself is beautiful without anything, so we just wanted to add a few floral arrangements to compliment property.

Our colour scheme was neutrals, blush pinks, ivories, greens and coffee tones. We used the flowers to reflect this, along with the bridesmaids’ dresses and our wedding stationery.

We wanted to make the wedding a reflection of us, and for our guests to come and think “that’s so Sam and Leah”, so we had a few little touches that were special to us, for example, our wedding cake topper was a silhouette of a man lifting a woman whilst his guitar leans against them. My husband is in a band and plays guitar, and I am a dance teacher so it fit us perfectly.

Our wedding favours were mini jars of homemade marmalade and Nutella. Nutella is my (bride) all time favourite thing to eat, and it’s a running joke amongst my friends how much I love it.

The marmalade was a tribute to my mum. She used to make marmalade and label it “Nana Joan’s Marmalade” and give to people as gifts. So when I was thinking about what to have for favours it seemed fitting to have mini marmalades from Nana Joan. I spent an afternoon with my mum making the marmalade a few weeks before she passed away, so having these as our favours was a little nod to her and also meant our guests to have her marmalade one last time.”


“The Dress!!! My favourite dress ever! It was a Suzanne Neville ‘Swanson’ dress, from Frances Day Bridal. High neck line with a cut away back and a full skirt.

We had seven bridesmaids, 3 little ones and 4 adult bridesmaids. Our little ones wore a gorgeous dress from Monsoon and our adult bridesmaids chose their own dress. They are all different in terms of their style, so I knew one dress would never suit them all, and I wanted to make sure they felt comfortable on the day.

Sam looked amazing in his navy tweed two piece jacket and trousers, teamed with two tone leather and suede tan and navy shoes, finished perfectly with some sunglasses and his wedding gift, an engraved watch. We asked the Groomsmen, Best Man, Father of the Bride and Father of the Groom to wear a suit of their choice, and we think it worked perfectly.”


“We went for a bespoke menu, created with Thomas the Caterer. Our canapés of steak wrapped chips, tomato and olive bruschetta, mushy pea croquette and chorizo and patatas braves skewers were amazing!

We then wanted opted for sharing platters for our wedding breakfast, starting with antipasti platters, baked camembert and freshly baked bread, followed by rump steak plate, which sharing sides of roast new potatoes, caprese with rockette salad, garlic green beans and jugs of peppercorn and mushroom sauce. Our dessert a selection of boards to share which had Nanaimo Bars, Chocolate brownies and Victoria sponge all served with pouring cream and fresh red berries.

For the evening we had Fish and Chips or Halloumi and Chips served with curry or tartare sauce and a cheese and pork pie cake with accompanying chutneys, cheese biscuits, grapes and celery sticks.”


“Music is a big thing for us, Sam is in a band and I am member of a Chorus, so ensuring we had the right music at our wedding was key. We decided we wanted live music and found an amazing duo, Christina and Harry. They played two sets as well during our ceremony. After the ceremony Christina and Harry played on the lawn, whilst our guests enjoyed the canapés and reception drinks.

One unique element we included in our day was a musical tribute to my mum. My mum was a huge Bay City Rollers fan, and I wanted to do something on the day to give our guests a moment to reflect on what had happened and begin the celebrations. We asked Christina and Harry to learn a Bay City Rollers number, as the last song in their set before we were seated for the wedding breakfast. Whilst the song was being played our bridesmaids and groomsmen handed out rainbow coloured balloons to our guests. At the end of the song we toasted my mum and released the balloons. We watched them drift up to the sky, and after that point the day was purely about the celebrations.

In the evening we had a DJ to keep the party going, all kicked off by our first dance, Beyonce – Love on Top. We also have to give a special mention to the best man, who may possible have done one of the best best man speeches we’ve seen. Keeping it true to tradition the speech was all about embarrassing the groom. He’d put together a video of photos, clips and videos of the groom from over the years which he showed whilst telling stories of groom that made the entire room burst with laughter. He did an amazing job!”


“Don’t sweat the small stuff! It’s so easy to get caught up worrying and stressing over planning a wedding, and panicking about every little detail being perfect. Our advice is try not to let those bits worry you, focus on the elements that are important to you, it’s those things you’ll remember and everything else will fall into place. And if it doesn’t it’s not the end of the world, your guests are there to celebrate your marriage and that’s what’s important.

And on the day, try and plan in some time into your day where the two of you are alone, have 10 minutes out, maybe with a glass of fizz to just be with each other and cherish every moment, it really does fly by!”


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