| REAL BRIDE’S ADVICE | Our Top Tips For Writing Your Own Wedding Vows
So for all you newly engaged couples and couples in the midst of planning your big day, your wedding vows, the words you’ll be saying when committing to each other for the rest of your lives. (Ahhhh this sounds a little daunting when you write it like this!) I recently got married and I’d never really thought about my vows until Ash proposed and then I thought gosh, this is actually going to happen.
Myself and Ash aren’t a soppy or lovey couple and are not one of those couples to show our emotion, especially in public or even around our friends and family. Hand holding is as far as it goes! However, writing my own vows seemed one of the most important and straightforward factors to me when planning our wedding. When I mentioned it to Ash he was surprisingly up for it too!
We got married in a field so hired a celebrant (Ali from Cariad Personal Ceremonies) which meant that we could also tailor make our service and make this as personal as we wanted so our guests could relate to us as a couple and enjoy finding out about us as a couple.
When thinking back to our day, the ceremony was probably my favourite part. The suspense of seeing everyone waiting there, the day you’ve planned for sooooo long to every little, teeny weeeeny detail. The day you have envisaged so many times in your head, it had actually arrived! The sun was shining, and I could see everyone waiting in the distance.
I had a long walk up the field with all of my bridesmaids, 13 in tow. I could hear the string quartet playing (my entrance song was Florence and the Machine, Dog Days) and literally at this point it felt so surreal. It almost feels like a dream now when I think back. We didn’t show each other our vows but ran them both past a mutual friend so she could vet them both and see if they where a similar sort of duration. We both wrote them in little cards and handed them to the celebrant (Ali from Cariad Personal Ceremonies) the day before.
When it came to our vows, I thought I’d be nervous. I actually couldn’t say them out loud before the big day however, when it came to it and in the moment, surrounded by all our loved ones, it was perfect. My vows were a little more comical (starting with ‘I promise to learn to Cook!) and Ash’s a little more romantic!
Each couple is different and each couple show emotion in different ways. For us as a couple, as we are usually not romantic, this was our chance to show our love for each other and to give our family and friends an insight into us as a couple, which I suppose is what your wedding is all about; showing your love for each other.
So, have you considered writing your own vows? Or would you prefer to stick with tradition? Let us know your thoughts …..