Wedding Etiquette: The Rules Should Know Before Your Big Day
If you’re clueless when it comes to wedding etiquette and traditions, don’t fret. Our simple guide will explain everything. From social media to bridal accessories, we’ve got it covered.
Children at Weddings
A controversial subject, deciding whether or not to invite children to your wedding day can be a super tricky task. If you’re having a child-free wedding day, it’s best to let the parents know well in advance so that they can organise childcare. Plus, they’ll look forward to it and will think of your wedding day as a chance to really let their hair down. Whether or not you choose to invite them along, you need to make it totally clear on your invitations so that there is no confusion between your guests, as it can get pretty awkward otherwise!
You’ll find that you will be absolutely inundated with questions from your wedding guests. They’ll be asking about nearby accommodation, taxi services and timings. The easiest way to deal with this is by creating a personalised wedding website. Not only will it be ultra-romantic and fun to create together as a couple, but it will be incredibly handy for you and your guests. You can ask your guests to RSVP via the website, fill out their menu choices and you can provide them with all the information they may need ahead of your wedding day.
More and more couples are opting for ‘unplugged weddings’, meaning that everyone leaves their phones and cameras alone for the day and instead lets the professional photographer capture the day. If you love the thought of an unplugged wedding day, let your guests know! You could place some cute signage at the entrance of your wedding ceremony, so that your guests know as soon as they arrive it is time to put their phones away. Alternatively, if you have no problem with your guests taking photos throughout your special day you could even create a social media hashtag. This will mean that you’ll be able to see all of your wedding images on one app. Again, you could easily create a super sweet social media sign, such as ‘#BenLucyWedding2017’.
Greet Each Guest
We’re sure this probably goes without saying, but one of the most important wedding etiquette rules is to greet each and every guest. A lot of your guests will have travelled many miles and spent a lot of money to spend the day with you. While your big day may be a wonderful blur of romance, emotion and happiness, always be sure to acknowledge and greet every guest and thank them for their attendance.
The speeches are one of the most emotional (and often the funniest) parts of any wedding day, but in what order should they take place?! The first wedding speech is always given by the father, and it ends with a toast to both the bride and groom. The next speech is done by the groom, who should always thank the bride’s parents, the guests and the bridesmaids. It is then time for the best man’s speech, but more and more brides are throwing the rulebook out of the window by standing up and doing a speech too!
Traditional Table Plan
You have probably heard of a traditional top table. When it comes to wedding etiquette, the seating plan for the top table usually goes as follows: Chief Bridesmaid, Father of the Groom, Mother of the Bride, Groom, Bride, Father of the Bride, Father of the Groom and the best man. But if this doesn’t sit comfortable with you don’t fret, you don’t have to stick to this traditional table plan!
The Wedding Cake
When it comes to wedding cake etiquette, couples were often restricted to three-tiered fruit cake adorned with white icing and simple detailing. We love the fact that you can now literally have anything you want for your wedding cake. Whether it’s a donut tower, cupcake stacks or a colourful cake covered with real blooms, there is now so much choice out there for creative couples.
The First Dance
Have you picked out a song for your first dance? Wedding etiquette suggests that the groom should also dance with both the Mother of the Bride and Mother of the Groom, while the bride should take the opportunity to dance with both fathers. It gets even more complicated! The mother of the bride should dance with the father of the groom, while the mother of the groom should also dance with the father of the bride. And last, but not least, wedding etiquette also advises the best man to dance with the maid of honour or chief bridesmaid. That’s a lot of dancing, so make sure you’ve picked out some fab tunes.
Always be sure to send out thank you cards to your guests as soon as you’re back from your honeymoon. Thank your guests for attending your big day and for any gifts you may have received. You could ask your photographer to take some lovely photographs of you and your new hubby holding up ‘THANK YOU’ bunting, or you could put together a collage of your wedding photographs. Tell your guests all about your honeymoon and how you plan on using their gift or money. They’ll really appreciate it and it will be a wonderful reminder of your wedding day.
If you’re not a fan of wedding etiquette or rules, take a look at the 8 wedding traditions that you don’t have to stick to!
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