Rebecca and Dave’s 1920’s Farewell to Bangkok Wedding
Dave and Rebecca’s wedding was also their farewell party as they planned to start a new chapter in Bangkok. They definitely did it with a stylish bang!
Over to Rebecca to tell you more…
“Dave and I got married at Kilworth House Hotel on the 22nd of December, 2014. Unusually we kind of chose the venue before we’d actually got engaged. Dave got a job in Bangkok, Thailand last Easter to start in August, we had always planned that I would go with him but as time went on it became apparent that it would be much easier if we were married. I was remaining in England to sell our house and generally get things in order and the next time Dave would be back would be Christmas. My parents live just a few minutes away from Kilworth House and having been to a beautiful wedding there and other events, it sprang straight to mind; we wanted a small intimate wedding day and a big party in the evening all in one place! After discussing it with my parents, my mum called Kilworth House to see if they could accommodate the wedding we wanted on the Monday or Tuesday before Christmas… The only 2 days we could do in what was a very tight emigrating schedule! In all honesty, I fully expected them to say no which was why it came as a bit of a surprise when my mum called and told me we had an appointment with the wedding planner the very next day. That evening, after 7 years together, Dave proposed. It was the middle of May, we had 8 months to plan a wedding, and just 3 months before my groom disappeared across the world!
I was dreading going dress shopping. It probably sounds strange as I seriously love to shop, but the whole wedding thing was just such an unknown it filled me with dread. My mum was straight on the case and booked a few appointments for the weekend after we got engaged, presumably before I had time to get more freaked out! I had a vague idea of what I wanted; slim, embellished but simple and I categorically did not want strapless.
My ‘vague idea’ proved to be the sticking point. We visited 2 boutiques with really beautiful dresses but none of them were what I was looking for; they weren’t unique or unusual or by my standard ‘slim’; they felt huge! I was a bit disheartened especially after being told I needed to make a decision asap otherwise there was a very real chance I would not be able to get a dress due to the time limit. I make my best decisions under pressure but this was ridiculous. The following week we visited another store where I found a nice ‘more what I was looking for’ dress that, but when asked by eager friends if it was the one, I knew it wasn’t. The saving grace here was the lovely lady told me not to panic and really take my time to decide if this was my dress, she said I had a month at least – a weight was lifted.
I was recommended Hannah at Noble & Wright Atelier when someone at work heard of my woes. I booked an appointment straight away and I am so glad I did. From the second I walked in I could see that Hannah stocked the kind of unusual but stunning dresses I had been hankering after. She listened to exactly what I wanted and how I wanted to feel on the day and recommended dresses based purely on that, none of this sticking me in a meringue because I might change my mind.
I tried on a slinky David Fielden which was so beautiful but wasn’t me, and a beautiful embellished cape backed Temperley called Jean; I loved the back but the front just wasn’t as gorgeous. I had spied it as soon as we walked in but at the back of the boutique on a mannequin was the most exquisite dress, it was Pronovias and I asked to try it on. It fit me like a glove and suddenly the feeling of ‘the one’ everyone had been telling me to hold out for, arrived. It was delicately pleated, cinched at the waist and flowed out but not too much, each pleat was beaded by hand, from a distance it looked simple but up close the detail was just stunning.
My whole experience with Hannah was amazing and I simply cannot recommend Noble & Wright enough, she is such a perfectionist and nothing was too much trouble! Hannah also supplied my shoes (Mimi by Rachel Simpson) and my beautiful veil.
The incredible Rachel Liney was responsible for my fabulous hair and make-up on the day, and that of the bridesmaids, both mothers and my grandmother! I had a trial with Rachel a few months before who understood exactly what I wanted and interpreted my vision into something even better. I knew from surveying her kit filled with awesome product that I was going to love her! My hair and make-up lasted all day and night, and looks beautiful in the photographs. I chose a Marina-B hair drape, adapted specially to sit across my forehead, from Jules Bridal Jewellery.
Dave had seen a gorgeous 3 piece suit in J-Crew but thought he’d wait and see if he could have something similar made out in Thailand. Needless to say he was recommended a tailor, Marty, who created the most beautiful suit for a fraction of the price. Dave chose a wool, silk, cashmere blend fabric in a light grey; Marty also embroidered his name in it! Dave’s shoes were from Reiss. The boys and my dad all had ties from Paul Smith in a pale taupe colour with a white polka dot. Engraved flasks from Swig and football shirts of Dave’s new Thai team created the perfect presents for the best-man and grooms-men. As a surprise on the morning of the wedding I had sent a Daniel Wellington Classic York watch to Dave, engraved with the date of our wedding.
Our invitations were created by the lovely Emma Moore Illustrations & Design who put up with my pernickety nature and delivered just what I wanted. She also created the fab signs for the day and the lovely cards for my parents, groom and bridesmaids.
My dad organised a couple of things. I was insistent I did not need a car and was quite happy to be driven the 3 miles between their house and the venue in my dad’s car, it wasn’t like we were going between a church to the reception. However, after a charade of having his car valeted and putting ribbons on it, he surprised me as we were preparing to leave with a beautiful vintage car and we all, bridesmaids included, piled in! It was a lovely way to travel and is so gorgeous in the pictures!
My flowers were supplied by a local lady recommended at work, Lynne, and they were just beautiful. I wanted simple arrangements as to not clash with the Christmas decorations at Kilworth House. I chose soft pink roses, eucalyptus and gypsophila.
Not being a girl who has dreamed about her wedding her whole life, we didn’t pick a particular style as such; I’m quite good at knowing what I like and quickly had Pinterest boards to gather ideas. I found blogs with real weddings too, they were really useful! The whole wedding kind of evolved bit by bit. After the event, our friends described it as an elegant affair with 1920’s influences and lots of personal touches; that sums it up perfectly to me!
My beautiful fur coat is a family heirloom, given to me by my step-grandmother many years ago. I have always wanted to wear it but have never really had the opportunity. Thankfully with a December wedding I needed something to keep me warm and my coat finally had an outing! The only jewellery I wore on the day was my engagement ring from Alex Monroe, earrings that were a wedding day gift from my parents and a beautiful gold bangle from Dave that was also delivered that morning from Monica Vinader. My wedding band belonged to my late Nana and is over 75 years old. Dave chose a simple gold band from Barry Bott that he had customised in their workshop to look ‘distressed’ and also had the date of our wedding engraved inside in roman numerals.
I think if anything my bridesmaids (my sister and best friend) would say that I wasn’t ‘bridezilla’ enough, most likely down to everything else I was trying to organise before emigrating! I was quite content with letting them choose what they wanted as they both have great taste, something my lovely beautician Becca told me is not the norm and that I was genuinely expected to pick their nail colour. Oh dear. I had always liked the Two Birds dresses as they’re simple and the multiple ways of wearing them appealed to me! I did a bit of research and found that BHS did an incredibly similar version. After my sister did a quick recky to see what they were like, we bought 2 in a beautiful soft pink colour. With both bridesmaids happy that was another thing ticked off the list. I did insist they choose their own shoes and at their insistence specified grey for their nails!
I love scent and wanted something new that would forever remind me of my wedding whenever I smelt it. I went with a friend to Jo Malone where we had a wonderful time smelling everything, drinking champagne and being pampered. I chose Dark Amber & Ginger Lily cologne layered with Peony & Blush Suede. As well as the fragrance I treated myself to the shower gel and body lotion for the morning of the wedding. I also bought my bridesmaids a gift of the Peony & Blush Suede candle, to remind them of the day, and a beautiful pair of earrings from Liberty in Love for them to wear on the day.
It was a last minute addition but we had a string quartet for the ceremony and drink reception, we heard Bow Belles at a wedding fair and just had to have them! They played a fantastic variety of old and new, including Elbow, Oasis and Florence & The Machine, who featured in our ceremony.
We had our delicious cake from Victoria at Bay Tree Wedding Cakes; this was a no brainer seeing as we have had fantastic cake from Victoria at an engagement party and another wedding. We chose a 3 tiered sponge cake (apple & cinnamon, Victoria sponge and chocolate orange) and a caramel cappuccino kitchen cake all covered in a white chocolate buttercream ganache. It was absolutely delicious and there was hardly any left!
I found Ed Godden Photography on a wedding blog and instantly fell in love with his creative, beautiful wedding pictures. It said he was fully booked on his website but as we were getting married on a Monday, I thought I would chance my luck and contact him! I’m so glad I did as it turned out he was available, after a chat on Skype we booked Ed straight away (it was actually Ed that pointed out our wedding was to be the leaving party of a lifetime – he wasn’t wrong!). We didn’t have time for an engagement shoot as Dave was leaving for Thailand but if you can, do! I think it must highlight things you don’t even think about when you’re being photographed; in my case, probably not laughing quite so much and keeping my mouth closed sometimes! We are truly delighted with our wedding pictures, as are our family and friends, there are just so many beautiful shots that document what was the most incredible day.
For the large wedding breakfast table we opted for hurricane lamps with gyp rings and lots of scented candles. My friend Wendy of Woo2you made ceramic name tags for the place markers; embossed in lace and glazed in a soft pink these made beautiful keepsakes for everyone. We also gave favours of Charbonnel et Walker Pink Marc de Champagne truffles to the ladies and miniature bottles of Sailor Jerry spiced rum to the men.
I hired some large initial letters to create a focal point behind the musicians, from Little Gem FX. These looked great and were a great backdrop for photos later on in the evening!
As soon as we booked the venue, we booked Richie Muir for the evening, we both love live music and had been really impressed with Richie at our good friends wedding last year so that was another no brainer. He was great, learnt our first dance (Not 19 forever, The Courteeners) and allowed us to be really specific about the music played during the DJ sets, no Aggadoo for us.
I had seen some awesome napkins on pinterest, drink size with metallic embossing. I hunted high and low but couldn’t find a supplier here in the UK that could do anything as nice, so i went to Wedding Paper Divas who have to most gorgeous range of stationary including very cool napkins. The favourable dollar rate meant ordering in from the US wasn’t expensive and even my mum admitted they were a really great touch!
We hired an awesome Vintage Photo Booth which proved a great success. The props were great and people were queuing up to use it, everyone came away with some hilarious pictures and we got a little wooden memory stick with all the action on!
Then there were the fireworks, supplied by Komodo Fireworks, I think my dad is most proud of these! Every time I thought they had finished more erupted! They were incredible and really topped off a truly wonderful day! It was so lovely to see everyone wrapped up in their blankets with their sparklers.
Planning a wedding could be never ending if you let it; a friend and I went to a wedding fair and were absolutely gobsmacked by how many ‘things’ you can have…live doves?!?!
A practical but vital tip is to keep a spread sheet of what you’re spending so you can keep an eye on things, it can quickly spiral!
Go with your heart; if you know that something isn’t you, don’t do it or have it and vice versa, do it or have it if you really want it!
Delegate – I had to, I had no groom, but it really does take the pressure off a little!
Watch as much of ‘Say Yes to the Dress’ on TV channel TLC as you can, it makes you realise how normal a bride you are!
I’d just like to say a huge thank you to everyone who was involved in our wedding and made it such a wonderful day, from all our family and friends to the fantastic suppliers who went out of their way to do an incredible job. If you would like to see how we’re getting on in Bangkok, pop over to my blog https://travelsofabeautyaddict.wordpress.com.”