A life plan …
Come on, admit it, how many of you have secretly mapped out your future in your head and hoped that it will run exactly like you imagine? House by a certain age, married at the perfect time for you, an amazing promotion/career and babies exactly when you want them …. hmmm.
I think it’s pretty safe to say that us women put so much pressure on ourselves to have the ‘perfect’ life that when it all goes t*ts up (as it inevitably does sometimes) we feel totally deflated and sorry for ourselves. Men just seem to get through life, day after day, without planning any further ahead than where their next meal is coming from. Women on the other hand like to have an idea where they’re going to be in 2, 5 and 10 years time and when it doesn’t work out like that, dear oh dear, we’re not the nicest people to be around.
When I was 12, I wrote out my ‘life plan’ which my lovely dad very embarrassingly read out to my entire wedding party as part of his speech (much to my horror). In this story which I had endearingly headlined ‘My Life – how I want it to go’, along with many other life adventures such as my big ambition to go to Blackpool ‘with my mates’ when I was 17 (what!?) I’d got a plan to be married at 24 in a ‘tent’ (I think I meant a marquee) with my sister as my bridesmaid. I actually got married at 25 in a marquee with my sister Grace as chief bridesmaid – not far off. As for the rest of the story, I’d gone as far as to naming my son and daughter (I really did have a vivid imagination at 12 years old!) and talking about my house being a barn conversion near water.
It would be lovely to think that my life will turn out as my once naive 12 year old self imagined – all fairytale-like and perfect. However, I am a realist and am totally expecting the ups and down and knocks I am bound to get on the way but I suppose that’s what life is all about isn’t it?
So, my question to you is this – have you always had a ‘life plan’? Or at least a hazy one which you strive to achieve? Or would you rather just run with it and see where the next corner takes you? I would LOVE to know.
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